238. How Narcissists Make Empaths Feel {with Sandi}

Hi there. I am starting this episode with the last sentence of the last episode. Number 2 37. How to get unstuck fast. And we will continue our conversation about knowing and leaving a narcissistic relationship. So glad you're here. Soak this in. Feel it. And don't worry if you're in one. Because the thing about being stuck as. And you just got to get out. And you can. But really, if you don't want to be stuck anymore, just get out.

no, just get out So, yeah, that that changed a lot that trip.

And, can we also pause? Because you were in a situation, I hope you don't mind talking about this, it's a situation that I was just in. I got out of a really shit relationship. I got out of being abused.

Ditto.

And I remember coming to your place and started, we started talking and you told me about this dude and I'm like, Sandy, get out.

It takes what it takes. You're right. and I didn't have LC saying, Hey, I just went through this. And this is like triggering shit within me. Like this is visceral. This is real. And you gotta get out. I, better than this. You don't need this. Get out. And it took me a while to get out.

does a lot of times.

narcissists are really scary. Like really scary.

And you don't realize or recognize how bad it is until you do get out. So it's really hard to get out because you don't, you don't see what you're going to see after you get out when you're in it. So it's hard to get out because you don't even realize you're stuck.

Yeah.

I mean, I think we do realize we're stuck, but we just don't think that it can get better. And that's, it comes down to self confidence and worth, honestly.

And you're absolutely right too. but for me, the crazy part was, was I was like, I don't know if I was doubting myself or questioning myself. but, um, I was like, is this all in my head? Am I like playing too much into it? Am I being too sensitive? And then thank God for Abraham. I love you Abraham Hicks. sensitivity is it, man. Go for it. The more sensitive you are, that's your guidance, right?

Yeah.

Yeah, I'm sensitive, and so I just feel like this weirdo, like, constantly. And get made fun of a lot. My whole life. That's okay. It's my guidance. And the thing that really left at this point. So it was like, um, after you had left and I just was like, fueled with your energy and knowledge about all of this stuff, Elsie, he was, wouldn't stop going at me. There was nothing I could say. Nothing. I was just like, just shoved in the dirt, made wrong. I'm just like, are you kidding me? And so I'm just like, no, you're freaking losing your mind, dude. And I didn't put it on me for the first time. Which is really cool because I was just like, Oh no, this is you buddy. Like you are messed up. And I saw clearly. And so I got out of my stock and sometimes it takes somebody that's gone through it to help you get out of the stock to show you that. Yeah. Cause it's your mind is a powerful, I want to say it is, and it just depends on how you're listening to it. And uh, to her. So she's powerful. And so, I believe in you. I believe you. And I believe in me as well. And I don't want to be stuck. And I don't want to feel like this. But it traps ya.

Feel into whether or not you've ever been in this position. And feel into whether or not you might be in this position now. If you are, I want to tell you. You can shine as brightly as you can shine. If you feel like you are being dimmed because somebody else is stealing that energy away. That person is not healthy. And this is not a good situation for you. Plain and simple. It is hard to swallow that pill. Especially if you're sensitive like me and like Sandy. And other impasse that get hooked into narcissists because we think. Somehow that all our compassion, our love is going to help them become better. It's not. The only way for them to become better as for us to leave. They probably won't be better, but we will. And when we get better. That ripples out. Two. The rest of the world. All of the rest of the world. No exceptions. We'll continue this chat tomorrow. It's really important. One. And you're going to hear some true examples of how. Narcissist act. And why it is so challenging to get out. And it might not even be a narcissist. It might be someone who's simply not emotionally mature. It doesn't matter. Whatever's dimming your light, get it out of your life. We move yourself from that situation. So that what does enhance your life and expands your life can enter it. Because it will. As soon as you let go of the stuff that's diminishing you. You'll become brighter. And the things that will make you brighter and the people and the situations that will make you brighter will come into your life like magic, but it's not magic. It's just the way the world works. Until next time we're sending all the love and then somewhere we'll talk tomorrow.