237. How to Get Unstuck Fast {with Sandi}

As I've said numerous times. My journey. While it was an external journey. Traveling across a lot of land on four wheels. Uh, visiting numerous friends. Flowing into other people's lives and experiencing how they live. It was more so an internal journey. It was a journey of coming home to myself. So when we come home to ourselves, We're no longer controlled by external forces. By narcissistic relationships. By people pleasing. Anxiety over the future depression about the past. We're in the now moment. This really is it. To be here now. To simply being right here right now and having this experience right here right now. If I was able. Two. Be an inspiration for somebody to get here now. My work has done. But I'm not going to stop. There's no retirement for this. I guess until I die. This conversation with Sandy starts with how magical Colorado is and was for me. And it shifts poignantly and importantly, significantly. And to leaving a relationship that is not good for us and why it's so hard. To leave. And how truly miraculous. And I say that with a kind of question, because I don't think anything is really miraculous. It's just how the world works. But I'm going to use the word miraculous because it feels like a miracle when we do separate ourselves out from that sticky situation. And live. Home. And ourselves. No more being taken advantage of no more being manipulated. We are making our own choices. It's amazing. Thank you for stopping by. I can't wait to share this all with you. It will be broken up into multiple episodes. Let's start. Hey, Sandy, we are here. I'm here with Sandy. We are going to talk about Colorado, which I've already talked about on the show, but I needed to have her here because she is in Colorado and the reason I went to Colorado. So thank you, Sandy, so much for living in Colorado.

you much for coming out to me, Elsie and us. was

trade it for the world. Thank you.

such a magical time, girl. We miss you out here, by the way.

I miss you too. I remember how magical it was just driving up there to where you live.

Okay, so I live at Horse Tooth Reservoir, which is in Fort Collins. And you can't find it on a map, really. You just have to know it's Horse Tooth Reservoir. And it's a vortex. First time I came up here as well. I was like, whoa, what is happening? There's these rocks Everywhere and this reservoir and it felt like Maui

Hmm.

Actually, like I was like when you go out onto the water, I was reminds me of Maui. It's like another vortex. So, when you came up here, tell me what you felt, cause you're always so lovely,

Well, I already had have mentioned on the show that the moment I crossed into Colorado, I was like, Whoa, what is this because it was so vastly different than Wyoming and really anywhere I'd been when I came up. And saw you for the first time in so many years and hugged you, I said, this place isn't even real.

right? I know, I remember that, I'm like, I know! It takes like years to realize that this is happening. And what I realized about, um, this place, because I lived in Maui, and Elsie lived on O'ahu, and I also lived in Costa Rica, so I like jungle a lot. Right?

Mhm.

There's soft mountains, those are jungle mountains,

Mhm.

I love the jungle, there's water, there's it's green, it's lush, it's flowing, you got a beach down there and all this. The rocky mountains where I live are hard.

Yes.

We are hard in all the ways that hard can be hard. Um, I'm a gardener growing food up here is like so hard, it's so hard, it's like you're fighting either rabbits or deer, the wind, the, no rain, like, it's like, bugs, whatever, even in a greenhouse, but anyway. Your hands get bitten up, eaten up, chewed up by the shale and clay and just rock of it all. But then, you look down and the whole ground, every time I look down, it's like see, um, diamonds on the soles of my shoes, cause that's what it reminds me of, it's just like, pshhh, there's sparkles everywhere. And then you look up and out and you're like, thank you.

Yeah. Thank

would be hard, but look at where you're at.

Yeah. I really get that. there is a really special energy in that place and I think we really were able to take advantage of that the week that I was there.

totally.

I think that the most pivotal moment was on that houseboat when I started, when you said, Elsie, you got to sing. And I said, okay. And we made a capo for me. And then I, I've already shared this on

That was so awesome. We all got involved in making you a capo too. And

and it worked

It worked,

and then I played my song and it was just, that's it.

it.

long I played with those guys, probably like an hour.

at least. At least. We were on a boat tour.

It was amazing. And it woke my soul back up. a part of me needs to play music with other people. And I hadn't the whole time I was in Hawaii. I hadn't. And that part of me was just sleeping. And she woke right up and I felt like me again, more than I had in manhood. I felt like me prior to this trip, Leaving Kent, who I'm calling my ex husband, was the best thing I've ever done in my life. And it brought me home to myself so fully that I think it just kept happening. I just kept getting more and more home in myself, more and more home in myself. And I guess everything that we do literally gets us more home in ourselves.

Correct.

Even the things that take us really far away because it shows us where we're being authentic or where we're abandoning ourselves or where I see that you have things to say. So I'm going to let you respond.

you're just hitting on it. I was like, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Cause, you know when you live in a place like we lived in Hawaii, right?

Yeah.

But you get stuck in the just life, right? You don't get to go experience and adventure and travel and see actually where you live because you got to make money and do the hustle and like take your kids and like, so when you came to town, it was a vacation for me as well. And so I got to go and experience and see things that I'd never seen before and adventure. And I go on the boat, that's like my big adventure, you know, and we go out, so it's just right there, and my brother's got this beautiful vintage houseboat, and it's just insane, right? And, yeah. That's like my adventure and that's it. But when C came, she's like, that's the world on flame. And so it's like, well, let's do this. Let's do this. Let's go hike. Let's do this. you know, then we meet, um, our dear friend Kiki Soso. Guy.

Soso, the guy. We can call him the guy.

Okay. The guy. So, he's just as adventurous and fun. Right? So the three of us. We're just like, okay, okay. So I finally got to set my soul on fire again,

Yay.

you came to town and so you sparked it in me again. And so this momentum started and it was unstoppable the whole week. It was like, where are we going to go? What are we going to do? Okay. And then everything was possible

Yeah, it is.

just hit like, oh, we want to do this. Boom, happened, boom, happened and like magically just followed suit.

can we just take a second here to honor what you said about being stuck?

Yes,

Because it's perfect and it's exactly what I wanted to talk about. One of the things that I wanted to talk about, the guy said when we were having a meal on a river at the Mishawaka, where we went because there was supposed to be music but there was actually a celebration of life happening so there wasn't music. We still had a good time. The guy goes, well, you know, the thing about being stuck is you just got to get out.

just gotta get out.

And it's so true. I mean, that

That's what started the whole thing.

That's it.

We bust gut laughing. It was like, nailed it.

So can we just take a pause and really feel that the thing about being stuck is you just got to get out. That's literally it. You just got to get out. If you're feeling stuck, there's literally nothing to do other than just get out.

Get out. And so what is it with our fear of seeing? Like getting out is what I'm battling with constantly.

I suppose if we're stuck, we know where we are and there's no mystery. If we get out, that is mysterious. We don't know what getting out is going to look like, other than freedom, so what are we afraid of? Again, we don't know what that freedom's gonna look like, so we're scared, so we stay stuck. But really, if you don't want to be stuck anymore, just get out.

Tomorrow our conversation transitions. Into how to get out of a narcissistic relationship. How to know you're in one. And what to do, why it's so hard to get out, but. How amazing it is when you do. Can we just see you then? Thank you so much for being here. This dropped on Thanksgiving in the us. And I want to say how grateful I am for you. Not only for listening to the show. But also for sharing. Your thoughts with me, your thoughts with others, keeping the conversations going. As well as simply for being who you are. Thank you for rocking the shit out of that. I appreciate you with everything. I am. Go to buy me a coffee.com/ 1 0, 0 ways to support the show or book yourself a session with me. And until next time. We're sending all the love. And then somewhere. We'll talk tomorrow.