186. You Should be Scared of Commitment

Welcome to 100 Ways. This is your daily exploration of self and soul. I'm your host and fellow explorer, Laura Christine. Let's dive in and find our way home. Commitment is so scary. Because. It is. An agreement. It's connecting yourself to something else. But not only that. It's projecting it into the future. That is why commitment is so scary. At first. Before I started recording this and before I looked up the etymology of commitment, which basically means to bring together and to let go. The first part of the word is to bring together. The second part of the word is to let go. What I'm feeling energetically is that it's not that it's to let it go from your life, but it's to. Push it forward. Fly it forward, project it forward into the future. So it's like you have this coming together and now you're going to throw it into the future. And I tell you what that feels like a trap to me. I think people are afraid of commitment because they're afraid of feeling trapped. And I think that our society has misused the word. And misused the action of committing. In that way. I used to like the word and I'm falling out of love with it very quickly. I'm falling out of the lake with it very quickly, actually. Because here's the thing, as we know, there is no future, it doesn't exist. Nobody knows. As I mentioned. And yesterday's episode. Nobody knows what is going to happen. Who's going to change and how, and that includes ourself. I would say if I was going to commit to something, which actually I bought myself this ring in the Hina, which recently burned down and it's very sad, but. Um, I bought this ring in Lahaina. And I said, this is my commitment to fun, pleasure, and truth, and nothing else for the rest of my life. I'm okay with that. Okay. With being committed to having fun in the future. I am okay with having pleasure in my life, in the future. And I am absolutely okay. With sticking to the truth and finding the truth and digging into the truth and exploring the truth. In the future. These are the types of things. I think. Oh, we're okay to commit to. Values that really aren't going to change. That said what if they do. Oh, no, you broke your commitment. What happens when you break your commitment? We make promises in the now moment based on how we're feeling now. And say, this is the exact way that I'm going to feel in the future, or at least no matter how I feel about. What's happening now, I'm going to. Act like, or. Not care. If I change. How I feel around this thing in the future, I'm going to stick to it because right now in this moment, which is the only moment that exists. I'm feeling a certain way about those things. Okay. That's ridiculous. That's why commitment is so scary. It feels like a trap. Why does it feel like a trap? Essentially it is. And. As Rick said. And the first Rick and Morty episode that I paid attention to. Because I heard this line after it was on in the background and I just burst out laughing. If I die in a cage, I lose a bet. So look. It's not that I'm not dedicated to things and it's not that I'm not loyal as fuck. And it's not that I. Want to hurt people and I'm afraid of staying true to my word or sticking by something or somebody. I mean, I committed to creating this podcast. And publishing an episode every day for a thousand days, I did break that commitment accidentally. I forgot that I missed a day. I noticed I missed a day And I made two shortly thereafter in one day. And I'm okay with that. That's fine. That was a little tiny, like, oops. But. Even there even then, it was very scary to make that commitment because I don't know if I'm going to actually want to continue to do this for a thousand days and then we can get into sunk cost fallacy and that kind of thing. And we're not going to do that today. But. It's okay. To be afraid of commitment. Here's what I wish we would. Not be so afraid of. Honesty. tomorrow, I'm in sharing information about, through and hug laws with you. Thursday. I'm going to share a little bit more about commitment and how I think we abuse it or misuse it. And then on Friday. I'm going to talk about. Honesty and why people are afraid of it and why? I wish we weren't so afraid of it. How to maybe not be so afraid of it. And then also what. Uh, I got to dig into honesty. I might have to get a friend with me on here who can also dig in and get their thoughts about honesty shared with you as well. If you have thoughts about honesty that you want to share, please contact me. You can go to buy me a coffee.com/ 1 0, 0 ways to support the continuation of the show. And until next time I'm sending all the love and then some more. We'll talk tomorrow. Thank you for exploring with me today. I would love to continue this conversation with you. We can do that at laurachristine. us. 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